2009年11月15日日曜日

"HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER", are they that great? + a copy of a personal email to my son on 17, November 2009



My son's been so crazy about this American sitcom "HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER" which can all be seen here and recommending to me repeatedly. He also finished reading "Bro Code" faster than any other books. I love watching "FRIENDS" again and again and never get bored with any of the episodes. "SEINFELD" was also hilarious. Currently, HIMYM is not aired in Japan, yet. I wonder why...  Well, I'll see if I can cope with the younger generation's joke.

 


I'm done watching the 1st episode, and at the first 10 minutes I was already into it. Cute drama!! gonna watch the whole episodes. It's really great for refreshment since I've got a little fed up with all those SPIRITUAL stuff these days. Thanks son!!... Although, how come you never see any African American cast in these kind of dramas, all WASPs and JEWs...

second thought, I'm already kinda bored with the 4th episode... bit too shallow for my age and taste I guess... maybe great for young singles.


I might add a little more to my comment since my son is checking my blog sometimes. I watched up to episode 4 but actually episode 3 wasn't working, so three episodes straight through and I got bored. Usually, I don't get bored even if I watch six or seven episodes at one sitting, But not with this drama. I'm too matured with dealing with these sweet unripe dialogues. I'm not telling you're shallow, son, definitely not. You're eighteen years old, enjoy your life!! but don't take these kind of dramas too seriously and try to match up yours to them, OK?

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This is very unusual for me to write about my personal life here but I'd like to share this with anybody who might think of this will help in any way.   


Below is a copy of my email sent to my son.
We usually write some touchy stuff in English because it's easier to do so rather than telling in Japanese.
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i loved being single... 

but i got french gf damn it
i already wna break up...

(↑Today, I found this in our family blog drafts box written by my son ten days ago)



Family Blog にこんな下書き見つけたけど。。。
Is this a dialogue from a drama or, are you talking to yourself?


Well, whichever it is, I'm gonna write a little advice for you as being a little more (or much more) expert in male & female relationships than you are. I'll try not to sound just like A MOTHER to you but if I do, please forgive me.


I know you have (and did have) a series of opposite gender relationships till now.
Maybe you are 'a very easy to get along with kind of guy' for both girls and boys. It is a good thing to have a lot of friends. Although, instead of numbers, it is far more greater to have relationships with friends IN DEPTH. I'm suggesting you to explore that area from my experience.


With reviewing back your childhood in my memories, I'd like to apologize for not always being a perfect mother to you. I know I couldn't act like a loving normal mother because I had too much trauma from my childhood. I was trying to do my best but at the same time, I knew you kids were feeling lack of love from me. Please forgive me and I really appreciate if you try to understand me.


Usually, when people acknowledge their emptiness in their hearts, they try to fulfill that hole with anything they become attracted to. When the hole is very big, they tend to obsess with the subject.
If you are trying to have fulfillment with building up a collection of girlfriends to satisfy your ego, you will never be able to have that. If you are doing so to impress your male friends, even if they say "You are such an attractive guy to have that many girlfriends to go out with! You're so popular, I really admire (or envy) you!", they don't really mean it. They will eventually see you as a shallow, irresponsible person.


To have a great intimate romantic relationship, what you have to do first is that 'YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF and BE CONTENT WITH YOURSELF, FIRST."




Nobody will love you seriously if you can't love yourself.


Just saying to yourself in front of a mirror, "I love you just the way you are. Even if you are not perfect and does a lot of silly things, I'm always on your side. Please forgive me of not appreciating you sometimes but I really thank you from my heart", many times as possible until you feel comfortable with these words. They will really cure your wounded heart, believe me.


Then eventually, you'll be able to face your girlfriend without feeling vulnerable and appreciate each other more deeply. Romantic relationship is very powerful to bring up what you have been hiding from yourself. Your inner most vulnerable sensitive part will be exposed. As you become more serious with your girlfriend, you'll eventually have to face them.
So, prepare to be able to face them by yourself, first, OK? 


I'd like you to always remember this GOLDEN RULE.

YOU WILL ALWAYS BE TREATED AS YOU TREAT YOURSELF.

Not only, 
YOU'LL BE TREATED AS YOU TREAT OTHERS  but  
YOU'LL BE TREATED AS YOU TREAT YOURSELF.

GOOD LUCK FOR YOUR LIFE!! and Don't forget your priorities as a university student, OK?


*******( your mother)   

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